I was labelled "The smart one" for a long time in my family. And it made my brother try harder, too. And it made him accomplish a lot, even for all he nearly failed--he's project manager of the EcoCar II project out of Rose Hulman, and he's in his early 20s.
I did sail through my associate's degree at a jc. But then I hit the uni and biochem and it's all I can do just to make it through a day sometimes. And it's awful when they sit there and make it sound like if you don't have perfect grades and a stunning string of high profile research internships, you'll never make it as anything.
Please trust me when I say making it through really is an accomplishment. There are a lot of people who can't do even that.
And it really sucks when everyone around you seems to be doing better---grades and jobs and just general fun. It's nigh on painful, and it inspires a jealousy in you that makes you hate yourself and your situation a little more.
*hugs*
You will get it all together. Things will fall in to place. The universe is just holding out for something even better for you.
But if you feel like telling it to fuck itself over it, go ahead. No one expects you to be happy and just shake off the stuff that bites. We just expect you to keep going, because we know you're capable.
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Date: 2012-09-18 09:17 pm (UTC)I did sail through my associate's degree at a jc. But then I hit the uni and biochem and it's all I can do just to make it through a day sometimes. And it's awful when they sit there and make it sound like if you don't have perfect grades and a stunning string of high profile research internships, you'll never make it as anything.
Please trust me when I say making it through really is an accomplishment. There are a lot of people who can't do even that.
And it really sucks when everyone around you seems to be doing better---grades and jobs and just general fun. It's nigh on painful, and it inspires a jealousy in you that makes you hate yourself and your situation a little more.
*hugs*
You will get it all together. Things will fall in to place. The universe is just holding out for something even better for you.
But if you feel like telling it to fuck itself over it, go ahead. No one expects you to be happy and just shake off the stuff that bites. We just expect you to keep going, because we know you're capable.