People who haven't been through things don't understand what dissociation feels like. When you discuss something with them, they write it off if you related it factually and monotone. They assume it's not important.
But some things, like even when you're able to get distance, they don't really go away. There's no closure on it, 10, 20 years down the road. There's coping. There's not being that person anymore. But there's no erasing it. And I get that that keeps hurting.
I have a lot of sympathy for you going through the things you went through, whether you believe they were big things or not. And I have a lot of empathy in ways I wish I could explain, except I don't want to make this about me and my experiences, because this is your space and in this space I want your words and your experiences.
Thank you for the times you've discussed this with me. This really is a deep insight into you, and I think this shows a lot of progress on your part with how much you were able to put into this particular account of it.
You did pick to be sitting here. You are making choices for yourself, and I'm very proud of you. And I will always be proud of you making those choices, even when you have bad days and plans blow up in your face. Because my caring for you is not about your success or your failure, but about you fully being yourself and owning your life. And you're working really hard on that.
As you've pointed out, look how far you've gotten in 10 years.
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Date: 2013-05-16 06:19 am (UTC)People who haven't been through things don't understand what dissociation feels like. When you discuss something with them, they write it off if you related it factually and monotone. They assume it's not important.
But some things, like even when you're able to get distance, they don't really go away. There's no closure on it, 10, 20 years down the road. There's coping. There's not being that person anymore. But there's no erasing it. And I get that that keeps hurting.
I have a lot of sympathy for you going through the things you went through, whether you believe they were big things or not. And I have a lot of empathy in ways I wish I could explain, except I don't want to make this about me and my experiences, because this is your space and in this space I want your words and your experiences.
Thank you for the times you've discussed this with me. This really is a deep insight into you, and I think this shows a lot of progress on your part with how much you were able to put into this particular account of it.
You did pick to be sitting here. You are making choices for yourself, and I'm very proud of you. And I will always be proud of you making those choices, even when you have bad days and plans blow up in your face. Because my caring for you is not about your success or your failure, but about you fully being yourself and owning your life. And you're working really hard on that.
As you've pointed out, look how far you've gotten in 10 years.