Meaningless words about a tiresome topic

[jynx_tsilevon]

Is it bad that I'd rather starve than use money from my dad to buy food?

No it's not gotten to this point. It's a hypothetical situation.

My dad called me this morning, because I had asked him to get me info on the Renters insurance number I needed. I haven't talked to him since my birthday. The last time before my birthday that we talked, I told him all of my grievances with him, and it ended badly.

Yet...he didn't take the hint.

Anyway, renter's insurance. I have it. Yay. It no, we didn't argue. Or nothing happened out of the ordinary.

Except...

Something he said really really bothered me. While we were doing it, they asked if the policy should be in my name (yes) or his (no). "No," he said. "I'm just the guy with the wallet."

What.

Since when?

I haven't taken anything from this man in five months. He's sent money, yes. And it's stayed exactly where it was sent.

But the woman on the phone laughed and I just got cross. And it's bothered me all day.

I'm paying the renter's insurance. I am. It's in my name, to my personal account. My dad sent me a text saying "Oh, great idea! Now you'll get some credit! I sent you enough for the insurance. Feel free to transfer it to your account."

No.

What.

I'm paying my own rent, my own utilities, my own schooling and book costs, my own food...I'm working a part time job so I don't have to take out any more loans (this semester).

And he's the one with the wallet?

This is the same man who disowned me for moving to B-town.

Yup.

I am confused.

My parents, both actually, confuse me. But mostly my dad.

On my birthday, my dad was shocked (possibly even offended) that I was drinking. Yeah. Legally old enough to drink, sitting alone in my apartment playing video games and drinking something more sugar than alcohol, and he was shocked.

Why must he shame me for doing things that are normal, anyway?

But something that confuses me about both of my parents.

They both would hammer it into me about how they worked to pay off their own college, lived out of their own pocket and didn't rely on their parents through school. Both of them say I need to work for my education and am so used to having things just given to me.

But the moment I do what they want, I move out, pay all my own stuff, get a job, and start "working" for my education, they both flip out.

I'm making a mistake.
I should be focusing on school.
I am not ready to take out loans.
What about debt?

Sheesh! Why can't they make up their minds already?!

It's really the last thing I need to hear, after going to school full time and 20 hour a week work weeks.

Comments

[whitemage]

My advice to you is since you are paying for it, stop going through your dad for help with your affairs. JJ and I were both under 25 when we got our renters' and car insurance policies, frex. Yeah, it's a lot harder and takes more time, but it's really dumb to keep subjecting yourself to him when you're a legal adult.

You are working way too hard to deal with his B.S. so just keep cutting him loose.

[crankyoldman]

Agreed. He's only going to keep making cracks like that to undermine your adulthood if he gets the chance.